I guess you can call it inspiration?

Yeah, I’m pretty sure people are sick of this topic called “love”, but I suddenly ran by some inspiration to write about it. I want to write about all the good things that can be found in it, the misunderstandings, and the flaws.

I believe that there are many forms of love. For instance, before a couple begin their relationship, they have to meet each other, either through an introduction or through some other form. They might not always have an instant connection, but eventually they learn more about each other. This is where the love starts, they become attracted to the different aspects of one another. In order for the relationship to work, they have to love spending time with one another. But even before being in a relationship, if they cannot love each other as friends, then they wouldn’t be able to comfortably share their secrets, past, or problems with their partners. 

Love isn’t just “Oh, we’re together, I love you now”. Honestly, it’s extremely easy to fall for anyone. If you only see the good parts of a person, then what isn’t there to love? But they more time you spend with another, the more you learn about each other, and the more you accept each other for one another’s flaws, the deeper and stronger that love becomes. Don’t get me wrong, there are many people who lie about their feelings, they’ll say they love each other even though they don’t mean it. But that doesn’t mean that those who have been lied to have to fear the word. If a person is in a relationship and their significant other tells them they love them, they shouldn’t feel obliged to say they love them back. If a person doesn’t mean it, they just shouldn’t say it, no one gains anything of importance over lying.

I also want to clear the misunderstanding that just because one person has been in a relationship before, and their partner is new to the ordeal, that the unexperienced person should get a free leeway to everything they do. Yes, one person has more experience, but in order to be where they are now, they also had to go through a breakup. Some breakups are worse than others, but no matter what kind of breakup, there’s no way a person can be better beyond the memories they shared with the person they were with before. If they were truly happy with one another, then surely breaking up for whatever reason was painful. And when they decide to move on, those happy memories, and the scars they created, will carry on with them. It’s true, if a person is inexperienced, they won’t know what to do all the time, and they may fear being compared to the person before them, but if they don’t try, it’s obvious. Even if they are inexperienced, they can ask other people for advice, watch some romance movies, or even ask their partner what they’d like. As for experienced people, it isn’t much better. They have to learn about their new partner’s likes and dislikes, hobbies, and whatever else. So they’re basically both on even footing.

Okay, now for the infamous, being in love with the best friend. At one point in a person’s life, they will almost always fall for their best friend. Why? There are a dozen reasons. In order to be best friends, they have to have to share a common interest. They know a side of one another that cannot be expressed, or known without spending a bunch of time together. They can easily vent to one another, and their families probably know both of them. They can laugh and act naturally around one another. There are so many reasons a person can fall for their best friend, but the question is, what are some of the reasons as to why they choose not to confess? Easy, they’re scared that their relationship will be ruined if they broke up. There are pros and cons to that thought. What if they secretly liked each other, but both of them were afraid to confess? They both lost the perfect chance to be with one another. And I wonder how they would feel if the other person suddenly fell for another guy/girl. In my opinion, best friends should never be scared of going out with one another. From personal experience, I went out with my best friend, we broke up, and we even completed the cycle a second time. But we’re still best friends, I love him, and I believe that by trying to be in a relationship together, we learned many things. One, we’re better off as friends, and we both agree with that. If two people are truly best friends, then a break up shouldn’t do anything to their relationship, they shouldn’t suddenly become enemies other night, and they certainly shouldn’t bare extreme hatred toward one another. Yes, there may be that awkward time period after the break up, but if they put effort into staying friends, they CAN get back to how they were before. Becoming romantically attached shouldn’t change anything between best friends for the worse. The moral of this long section: if you like your best friend, go for it, don’t be scared of ruining your relationship.

“I love you, so I’m leaving you for your own good because I think you’ll be better off without me/you deserve better than me”. <——-That there, is the stupidest line I’ve ever heard in my life. I couldn’t decide on which was worse, so I tied the better off without me and deserve better than me as number one. Honestly? If a person chooses to be in a relationship with another person, it’s because they are attached to them. People should never feel like they’re never good enough, because they are. If a person really didn’t want to be with their partner, they’d leave. The idea of breaking up because they think it’d be better for the other person, that makes no sense at all. It just sounds like a soap opera, it sounds like an excuse for leaving. If someone really felt that they weren’t good enough, but understood that it was a mutual love, they would try harder. They would do their best to improve themselves in any aspect possible so that they wouldn’t feel like a burden to their partner, they would want their significant other to be proud of them.

Yeah, that’s all I felt like saying.